I was reading a self-hypnosis Twitter account and something jumped out at me. They said, with training and experience, you can hypnotise yourself and enter a trance in as little as ten minutes.
Now, I agree with that. The first few times hypnotizing yourself can be slow. It’ll take time and patience to get it down to ten minutes. Self-hypnosis can be unreliable. It’s like anything else – it takes practice to become smooth and fast.
And, sure, ten minutes is a realistic benchmark.
That tweet stood out for me because I enter the trance state much faster than that.
Continue reading “Did I really just share the password to my brain?”
I like the smell of some cigarettes. Definitely not all – as much as I like smokers as people, the layer of noxious and obnoxious smoke makes me cringe. Some of them smell different from the others, though. Nice, even.
This came back to me the other day as I kept walking behind someone’s desk. Their thick, green jacket – draped over the back of the chair – hit me with a whiff every time I walked past.
It was lovely. I should have asked what brand he smoked, because it smelled classy (as opposed to toxic).
The funny thing is that I’m not a smoker. I never have been. I’ve maybe smoked 20 cigarettes in my life. My vices tend to be cheaper and less stinky.
So why am I waffling about my habits?
Continue reading “How to see through your own alternative facts”
Of all the benefits it brings, the fact that meditation can help you sleep is right up there. I don’t need to tell you how important that is.
As you lay in bed, shifting to get your body right, your mind running loops about whatever… it’s frustrating, I get it.
Sleep is one of the key functions in your day. It pays to get it right, since it improves literally everything else. But you don’t have to master meditation. I mean, you should – it’ll bring other benefits too. You don’t have to, though.
That’s because a few simple tricks will help you rest well each night.
The first technique is to focus on your breathing. Observe what it feels like to inhale and exhale.
Then there’s a body scan. Notice the sensations in your head, then your neck, then chest, down to your feet.
Then there’s observing your own thoughts. Instead of thinking about how you can’t fall sleep, watch yourself think those thoughts and see what that’s like.
Body, breath and mind – a rich and soothing world.
But you might already know these tricks. Many people talk about them (because they’re great). If you’re reading this, though, you probably want something better.
Because what if you’ve tried those and they didn’t work for you?
Continue reading “Advice you haven’t heard about using meditation to sleep”
You can sit around a table, pen in hand, as you start setting goals. You feel the excitement as you capture the plan. This is what your life will look like a month, a year, five or ten from now. Right now, in that moment, you’re unstoppable.
The problem is that it doesn’t last. Motivation fades. You can affirm, visualise and plan all you want – but it will evaporate. Finishing a project is darn satisfying. So is starting one. It’s that bog in the middle that gets you.
It doesn’t have to, though. After all, you achieve some of your goals. Sure, some are tiny and easy enough to smash out in an afternoon. Others aren’t and you achieved them anyway.
What makes a goal achievable?
Continue reading “Goal setting that actually works”
Let’s say you’re a hypnotist and you put someone in a deep trance. What can you do to them? Can you rob them? Hurt them? Get them to do crazy stuff for your own amusement?
Hypnosis makes someone more suggestible. Does that mean you can suggest that they want to give their wallet to you?
I know people who disagree with me. They say that hypnosis only works because you become more suggestible. They say hypnosis, like everything else, is just as easily a tool for good or evil.
Well, here’s the thing about that:
Hypnosis makes you suggestible, not stupid.
Continue reading “Can a hypnotist “take advantage” of a subject?”
I’m vain enough to monitor Guided Thought to see where the traffic comes from. Sure, sure, there are valid business reasons for that. I’d do it anyway – I like to see who likes me.
Imagine my surprise when I saw a tasty chunk of traffic from who-knows-where. Had someone mentioned me on a blog? Did they link to one of my products?
I snooped around on the source of these viewers… and it’s one great big article farm. One that I hadn’t submitted anything to (or even heard of).
Sure enough, there was one of my articles. It was identical, from the start of the headline to the final forward slash. Only it didn’t have my name as the author – again, it was “written” by someone I’ve never heard of.
(Submitted a mere four months after I wrote it.)
And that is bloody hilarious.
Continue reading “Please steal from me”
I’m not perfect – not even close. Who is, right? But here’s the thing – I’m in the personal development niche. There’s pressure to hide my flaws, mistakes and failures. I’m “supposed” to present a shiny, happy, successful front to the world.
It wouldn’t make me happy to do that, so I won’t. Besides, you deserve honesty.
And I’m not about to humblebrag or anything. I could say all the ways I used to mess up, but no longer… thanks to self-hypnosis (which I would then follow with a plug for my self-hypnosis training guide).
What I’m about to say is all relevant now. These are my current issues – the ones I haven’t resolved yet.
All right, enough teasing. Let’s begin this autopsy.
Continue reading “I’m a horribly flawed person (but you don’t have to be)”
I know people who peddle in motivational quotes. They hunt them down, share them on Facebook and move onto the next one. Heck, I used to be like that with an old Twitter account. So I get the appeal of them, I really do.
But there’s a big ol’ problem with quote farming:
It has a way of becoming hollow and pointless.
You read a quote and something about it resonates with you. Maybe it’s clever and insightful. Maybe you’ve heard it before but now, in one moment where you stare at your screen, you truly get it.
So, being the generous person you are, you share it with everyone you know.
You look for another inspirational quote. Most are rather trite, so you keep digging. But you find a good one. Then another. You share these too.
The more you look, the emptier these quotes sound. And you start seeing the same quotes popping up again and again. Don’t those hacks know we’ve heard that one a thousand times before?
If you keep looking, you find a sea of decent motivational quotes amid a bigger sea of garbage.
(It’s so bad that you can’t even think of good metaphors for it.)
The harder you look, the harder it is to find an inspirational quote that’s…. well, inspiring.
And let me tell you why that is.
Continue reading “What’s much (much) better than motivational quotes?”
This might be the dumbest thing I ever write. On the one hand, can it really be that bad if it’s good advice? On the other hand… yeah, no, this is really dumb.
And that’s excellent news. It means most people who read this won’t do it. If you do what I say here, you’ll be one of the chosen few who see dramatic improvements.
So, here it goes. This is the moment where I sacrifice my ego and dignity to share something amazing.
If you want to be a success in your sphere, then I officially recommend that you play make-believe.
“Oh, I get it,” some of you are thinking. “You’re talking about visualisations. Like how athletes imagine themselves at peak performance and winning championships. That’s not so bad.”
Ah, no, not quite.
Have you ever caught children dressing in their parents clothes, clomping around while pretending to visit the doctors? Or maybe they were in the garden, pretending to be kitty cats and fairies?
That’s playing make-believe.
And it might be what your career is missing.
Continue reading “What kind of idiot tells business professionals to play make-believe?”
The Law of Attraction is darn popular right now. It’s a belief that your thoughts dictate your reality, that being open to what you want draws it to you. Sometimes this is metaphoric – the openness lets you see more opportunities, for example. Some people mean it literally – a metaphysical process of moving energy around the universe.
I’ll let people decide that one on their own. A short article isn’t going to change your mind.
What I want to pay attention to is its hit rate. Some people swear by it. I’ve heard plenty of folk say that they found love, health and millions through it.
I’ve also heard people say it’s a ridiculous and awkward waste of time.
The truth is that both groups are right. Not every success story is a lie, and not every failed attempt was a lack of effort. It works for some people, but not others.
So what’s missing from the Law of Attraction?
Well, some experts on it think it needs more references to quantum physics.
No one knows why it works, so I won’t pretend to. It doesn’t matter. What’s much more useful is knowing how to make the most of it.
So let’s break it down:
It’s clear how your thoughts dictate your reality. Thoughts prompt action, and action changes your world.
But what thoughts?
Continue reading “When the Law of Attraction fails for you”