I butt heads with Freudians pretty often.
My biggest objection to their philosophy?
They view the unconscious mind as a mental realm of savage impulses that needs either locking away or conquering.
Apart from being an incomplete view (at best), it’s unnecessarily hostile towards yourself.
You can’t fight yourself and win.
Besides, they call your unconscious the ‘subconscious’. Hypnotists among you know why I love to talk about your unconscious mind…
Anyway, part of this mania towards civilising your unconscious is what they call insight therapy.
It’s something psychologists relied on for a long time.
And many still do.
It sounds reasonable enough:
A person has an issue. Say, chronic anger, bad habits or a phobia.
Insight therapy involves talking through the issue, session after session, dissecting every childhood memory or conflict with yer mutha.
Eventually, you find the root cause.
Presto, changeo, you’re cured!
Well… not so much. This approach is dying out as a way of treating phobias. But it’s still somewhat common for other things – more than that, many folks seeking treatment expect this kind of thing.
After all, isn’t that what therapy is?
Talking about your every fear, failure and unfulfilled desire, every week for years on end?
If you find yourself in this never-ending talk therapy cycle, then it’s probably for (at least) these five reasons:
Even a curious student of psychology can tell you:
Humans aren’t rational creatures; we’re rationalising ones.
We make decisions based on emotion, instinct and experience… then concoct a logical-sounding reason after the fact.
It’s not that we’re incapable of reason. We use reason when we have the chance to reflect or prepare… and usually when our emotionally-based reasoning failed. It’s not impossible to calculate in the moment – but, for most decisions, there are too many variables.
And it’s the same with sorting out your own issues.
It’s easy to come up with a logical explanation… that’s entirely wrong.
Let’s say you have a history of resentment towards your bosses – even when they’re good people. It’s affecting your career.
A logical explanation? You have issues with authority because of unresolved issues with your father.
Is it true? Maybe not. Maybe you crave freedom and you’d thrive with more autonomy. Or perhaps your personality aligns better with ‘entrepreneur’ than ‘wage earner’.
But instead, you hone in on this parental-issues angle.
You waste time trying to root out issues that aren’t even there, possibly jeopardising your relationship with your father.
When really all you need is to feel the wind on your face.
Oh well. Now you’ve told yourself you ‘can’t’ be a good employee until you sort this out, you won’t be. Enjoy living up to that false narrative.
You spend months digging into your issues.
All the while, the subtext (or even the overt message) is once you figure out why, everything will be better.
Then you have some insight.
A half-buried childhood memory returns to mind.
This explains everything!
Now you’ve had the insight, you can put your feet up and celebrate.
Your work isn’t done. Just because it was a slog to get here, that doesn’t mean it led to anything.
It’s like going to the gym. You could spend months working hard… but if you focus on anything but the right thing, you won’t be much stronger by the end.
If you want to talk through your issues, expect to do a lot of talking.
Every week or so, for months or years.
This is a huge investment of time and money.
Worth it if it works, right?
Sure… IF it works.
And IF there isn’t a faster, more effective way.
In the meantime, that’s months before you find your insight. Which means it’s months of still living with the issue.
Feel like telling a stranger all your deepest, darkest secrets?
And I mean all of them.
Every bad thing you did or experienced as a child.
Or reliving some traumatic event over and over.
Yeah, me neither.
Insights, by themselves, don’t lead to healing transformations.
It’s possible to know how come you have a problem and still… you know, have it.
If you nearly drown as a kid and then find you were afraid of pools as an adult… well, that’s no mystery. That’s as simple as it ever gets in psychology.
But some (and I do mean ‘some’ – most are better than this) therapists won’t accept that. If you know the cause but you still have it… well, that mustn’t be the real cause. There must be an underlying, suppressed fear that expresses itself this way.
If you find yourself on the receiving end of that, hold onto your hat. It’s gonna be a bumpy ride.
Some of you will laugh when I say hypnosis is a better alternative.
Even if I point out it doesn’t rely on insights. The stories we tell ourselves – including those dripping with self-deception – amuse our conscious minds.
You can go through hypnotherapy and leave transformed, free of your old burdens… and have no idea what they even were.
In fact, it’s more common than you think.
And I can point out how much faster it is. A skilled hypnotist working with a client can, together, resolve even crippling phobias, severe anger, anxiety or other emotional issues in, say, two to five sessions.
Sometimes it takes longer.
Sometimes, it’s over in ten minutes.
Things become fast and effective when you change on your unconscious mind’s level.
Even so, some of you are laughing at it not being invasive.
Isn’t hypnosis incredibly invasive?
Well, I’m not sure how getting someone to close their eyes and relax is invasive.
But more than that, I’ve worked with clients while having no idea what they wanted. Their challenges were too personal to share, so they didn’t.
Fine by me – I didn’t need to know.
I asked if they could think of a time they had this challenge – they could.
I asked if they could think of a time they were free of it – they could again.
That’s all a skilled hypnotist needs. If the client knows the problem and knows what success looks like, then that’s plenty.\
Which brings us to the crunch:
If working through your issues seemed too difficult, long or expensive, then put all that to the side.
Therapy doesn’t have to be a clumsy back-and-forth where you use words to describe some deep part of your mind. With hypnosis, you can engage the source of your challenges directly.
Engage them and resolve them.
Do this regularly and you’ll be amazed at how much you’ll transform. You literally can’t imagine how free you’ll feel, once you release your inner burdens, one by one.
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