Should you balance yourself, or should you double-down?

Here’s a controversy that echoes through spiritual traditions and self-improvement circles. Across time and space, people wonder:

Should I seek balance or should I lean into my strengths?

You see this in Ayurveda. If you’re strong in Vatta, do you eat Vatta-boosting food? Or do you improve Kapha and Pitta instead?

With the chakras of Hinduism. If your third major chakra is hyperactive, do you stoke that fire? Or do you calm it to bring it into balance?

Let’s bring it into the present. If you’re extremely introverted, do you lean on your introversion, or do you chase extraversion? Can you even become more extraverted?

All great questions.

Except for the teeny tiny flaw in the whole concept.

Can you spot it?

Here’s a hint: my NLP-versed readers probably spotted it.

Because they know how squiggly the word ‘should’ can get.

As far as I can tell, when it comes to spiritual philosophies, balance is a wise goal. Your strengths become even stronger when your weaknesses aren’t holding them back.

As for thinking about introversion and extraversion, logic and intuition, boldness and calculation…

The word ‘should’ hides the best answer.

Which is to do both.

If you’re a highly intuitive thinker, even a little logic will do wonders for you.

As will training your intuition to reach new heights.

Hmm? What’s that, you ask? How do you train yourself in opposite ways of thinking at the same time?

Well, that’s easy.

You don’t. You can’t. It would overload your conscious mind.

Fortunately, there’s more to you than that. In fact, a part of you can’t overload because it loves parallel processing.

It’s the part that monitors every patch of your skin, ready to alert you if a spider takes a fangful of you.

And it’s scanning the sounds around you for anything worth your attention. That’s just the wind through the leaves, but… what’s that? Was that a gunshot, an aroused supermodel or a large amount of money falling out of someone’s pocket?

Then it’s not just monitoring your internal environment – ready to ache if your kidneys inflame – but controlling it, too. Handling all the information for your heart, immune system, hormones…

You get the idea.

So, yeah.

Want to balance yourself and develop your strengths?

Good luck to anyone who wants to do that consciously.

But… how do you do that unconsciously? Isn’t it, by definition, outside your control?


Sure, with that attitude.

Here’s how you can influence the unknowable corners of your dark and beautiful mind:

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