The Easy Path to Happiness, Control and Growth… Even in a Crisis

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Do you know anyone who lives what some might call a charmed life? One filled with joy and accomplishment?

They roll from success to success. Whether it’s starting a new business, finding true love, experiencing incredible adventures… nothing seems to stop them.

Maybe they’re wealthy. Or maybe they’re wealthy in non-financial ways – happiness, love, satisfaction…

One thing you rarely see in their lives are nasty failures. No catastrophes, no dramas. Just smooth sailing towards a beautiful horizon.

Do you know anyone like this? They’re rare, so maybe not.

Here’s a better question:

Do you want to be like this?

But before you answer that…

There’s a lot of talk about celebrating failure. Failure failure failure – it’s all the successes in life go on about. And it’s true – no one succeeds without failing first.

So, how do I explain these people – the ones who seem to succeed without effort?

The answer is that they probably do fail. You just don’t see it.

I don’t mean that they’re hiding it. Heck, they’re probably flaunting their failures. It’s just that most people don’t recognise what they see…

What Leaders Call the ‘Secret to Success’

Successful people are smart, qualified and hardworking. So it sounds like that’s the answer. But the world is full of talent and effort. These things are necessary but – by themselves – not sufficient.

What’s missing? What attribute separates success from struggle?

A 2013 article in Forbes described this attribute as “…a valuable and accurate predictor of success not just in business but in our personal lives.” said that without this, “we are at the mercy of the universe.” And psychologist Angela Lee Duckworth describes it as a better predictor of success than IQ and family income.

You ready?

It’s resilience.

Nothing shocking there – resilient people persevere. They take risks and follow through. They stay calm and focused while everyone else runs around like the room’s on fire. Given equal intelligence and skill, how much further would a resilient person go than someone who buckles under the strain?

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“Mental Insurance” That Pays Dividends

There are many ways to train resilience. I won’t go into all of them because there’s one that quickly and easily yields results:

Find pleasure in any situation.

A study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that this attribute fully predicted whether people experienced post-traumatic stress or post-traumatic growth after a terrorist attack. It might sound strange – how does appreciating a beautiful flower help when your world collapses?

It breaks the pattern. This resets your thinking, even for a moment. Even if the bad thing far outweighs the good, a quick rest is all your brain needs. Compare this to people who dwell on the negative. It doesn’t matter if it’s justified – it still taxes your mind.

Seeing the world this way is a habit you can learn. And the time to learn it is before a crisis. It’s like insurance – you take it during calm moments, just in case you ever need it.

Here’s the difference between positive resilience and insurance, though:

Insurance only pays out when something goes wrong.

Building this type of resilience, though? That rewards you every second of your day.

Your Invitation to Strength and Positivity

Small Pleasures is a short, simple document. It’s an invitation to experiment with your mindset. Inside are tips and examples – some of which you’ll apply, others you can ignore. But once you start thinking this way, you won’t stop. Your unconscious mind will hone in on opportunities to apply this and grow.

Remember those people we discussed at the start – the ones with the charmed life? This is their secret. They fail – of course they do. But they see the positivity in their failures. They treat them as learning exercises or launchpads to new things.

They don’t dwell on negativity, spread drama or complain. What’s the point? They’d only be hurting themselves. Instead, they find something – anything – good in the experience and move on.

And when you think this way, others will think you are magic. It doesn’t matter if you fail because you salvage what you can and move on. Others won’t see this, even if you shout it in their face. If there’s no drama, it doesn’t look like failure.

(Because, in a way, it isn’t failure. It’s just another stone paving your way.)

I’ve made Small Pleasures as simple as possible. You can breeze through it, though the lessons will last a lifetime. And I’ve priced it so affordably to make it as easy as possible. Given the small investment of time and money, the value inside is incredible.

So flick through it with a pen in hand. Take your time and dwell on the lessons inside. Let your mind find its own way to apply the material. Do this and all too soon, your mind will be a fortress – unaffected by the storms in your life.