Some folks out there have harmed themselves through self-help.
It’s not even rare. Toxic positivity – where you embrace ‘bliss!’ and ‘gratitude!’ at all costs – runs rampant on social media.
There’s a huge difference between choosing to feel more grateful and choosing to only feel grateful. One is healthy and wise; the other corrodes your very sanity.
Even if you avoid the trap of forcing yourself to smile all the time, there are other dangers on the road.
Yes, even for Phronesis Accelerator subscribers. If you apply the Shields to every problem in your life, no matter how small, you might find yourself feeling strangely flat.
Especially if you don’t heed the safety tip on page 4 of William T Batten’s 34 Shields – included with your first issue.
Not everything that looks like a problem is actually a problem.
And not every real problem needs fixing.
That’s what the toxic positivity gurus miss. They hear that gratitude is great, so ingratitude must be weakness. They know that bliss feels wonderful, so they fight their own sadness and apathy.
These are worthy goals. Aiming to live a life of bliss is a better use of your time than what most folks do.
But you don’t sail the ocean without a map.
Likewise, you don’t build your life of bliss without first figuring out how.
It does not – I’ll say again, NOT – come from treating your emotions as diseases. You don’t ignore them, you don’t train yourself to not feel them and you don’t force yourself to feel good.
It’s funny – when you fight yourself, you always lose, no matter the outcome.
So rather than scowling at your feelings, first learn four times to simply live with them – on pages 7-8 of the April issue.
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