Meditation failures are self-hypnosis successes

Many people want to meditate. They hear about the incredible benefits it brings – sharper focus, emotional balance, greater relaxation – and they decide that, yeah, they want some of that. But it’s hard work. The techniques are difficult to use at first, especially the way that most people teach them.

If you want to enjoy a richer mental experience, you might wonder if there’s an alternative to meditation.

I can assure you that there is.

Self-hypnosis generates the same mental states that meditation does. It does it in a very different way, though. The techniques and principles are easy to learn and just as effective. In many cases, they are easier and more powerful than meditation.

It even overcomes the main obstacle with meditation. What’s seen as failure is actually raw fuel for self-hypnosis.

Some people say that meditation and self-hypnosis are the same thing. Others believe that they are completely different. I wouldn’t disagree with either perspective. The way I see it, there is a lot of overlap between the two. I practice both and I use them in unique ways.

Does that make them the same or different? I choose to separate them. That’s a choice though, a belief and perspective. You can take it or leave it.

If meditation is hard for you, then I encourage you to embrace this idea. Self-hypnosis is different enough to be exactly what you need.

Meditation involves clearing your mind and emptying your thoughts. This is tricky to do (at first). It’s hard to know whether you’re succeeding. Realising that it’s working is a thought, which sets you back.

If that’s a pain for you – if this is what you’ve always disliked about meditation – then I have great news:

Self-hypnosis uses your thinking.

You don’t have to clear your mind. If you do, great. If not, also great. You can be in the present moment, fully aware, or not. You can have a quiet mind, or not. It’s all good with self-hypnosis.

The reason is because it uses a different style of thinking. It’s easier to think something new than to think nothing.

Both practices bring you into a trance state. Both require practice and discipline to master. But only one encourages you to do something unnatural. Self-hypnosis is cool with you doing what you need to.

And once you’re in trance, it’s so useful to be able to think. Sometimes you need to imagine, visualise or consciously process something. That’s great, go ahead because that will only enrich the experience.

If your interested in meditation, hypnosis or both, you might want to read this:

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What does your unconscious do?

Think about everything you can control.

You can choose to direct your attention one way or another. You can focus on this sound or that thought. It’s up to you.

You can move your body within the normal ranges of its motion. Wriggling your toes is so natural and automatic, it’s hard to describe exactly how you do that. It’s almost as if you set an intention and it just… you know, happens.

You can do a few others things by choice, like move, speak, imagine and breathe.

As for your unconscious mind…

Your unconscious mind does everything else.

Think about it – in a given minute, how many things do you do without even being aware of it?

Your brain makes your heart beat, but you can’t choose to change its rhythm. It’s automatic and therefore unconscious.

Same with all the other major organs. Your liver and kidneys don’t do much without your brain telling them to, yet it’s not the conscious part of your mind that does that.

Your unconscious translates raw sensory data into meaningful information. When you look at a face, you don’t see what your eye sees, which is a blurry, vibrating mass of splotches. You see a friend or foe, happiness of sadness, threat or opportunity.

There are millions of sensory channels in your body. Your sense of touch monitors pain, pressure, temperature and texture simultaneously over every part of your skin. How much are you aware of that? Usually not at all – or maybe on a couple of points if you focus on them.

What about your thoughts? You can influence your emotions but you can’t control them, not like how you can control your fingers. Emotional maturity is about learning better ways to process emotions – you can’t simply choose to be happy all the time.

You can nurture creativity, motivation and focus but sometimes, despite your conscious intentions, they can elude you.

Where does a thought go when you stop thinking it?

And where did it come from before that?

It’s all your unconscious.

It’s a realm of base instincts and raw emotions, plus heightened wisdom and limitless creativity. There’s nothing about it that’s good or evil, virtuous or sinful – it simply is.

This is also the part of your mind that goes into trance.

That’s kind of what hypnosis is – it bypasses your conscious awareness for a moment to engage your unconscious.

The conscious mind is an amazing thing but it’s not the right tool for every job. Ever try to force something, like remembering someone’s name? The harder you try, the harder it gets – and that’s because it’s best left to your unconscious.

It’s the same with resolving emotional blocks and other issues. You can’t think your way out of insomnia, as anyone with it will tell you. All you can do is switch off your mind as best you can.

Either that or you engage your unconscious and release whatever is keeping you awake.

Whenever you want something – whether that’s to eat better, focus or sleep – and you don’t get it, the answer lies in your unconscious.

Speaking of insomnia…

If something is keeping you up at night, I recommend a Neural Reset. It teaches your brain to completely relax, which can help when it comes to your sleep.

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You will get your downtime, one way or another

Sometimes, awful things happen to you.

Life can really suck sometimes.

When you find yourself in a situation where you wish life were giving you something as harmless as lemons, here’s what to do.

There’ll be intellectual factors to this situation. If you lose your job, for example, you’ll need to make some plans. Things like making a budget and applying for new jobs.

File that under D for ‘duh’.

What folks often forget are the emotional factors.

After getting sucker punched, right after you take care of any urgent issues, take some downtime.

Lie on the grass or stare at the wall.

It’s easy to think of the cliché griever – someone who responds to having the floor drop out from under them by drinking themselves blind.

A less obvious one, but still a cliché, is the person who throws themselves into work. “I need this,” they’ll say.

These can be nothing more than attempts to escape from their unpleasant reality.

Hmm?

What’s that?

You’re not an alcoholic, workaholic or any kind of holic?

You do, in fact, enjoy plenty of downtime?

Great!

With or without a screen in your face, though?

Social media, reading, TV, video games, mindless web surfing – they’re all distractions from the pain of it all.

And maybe you need a distraction right now.

Take the downtime first, though. Lock yourself in a room with nothing but your thoughts.

Lie on the floor and stare at the ceiling.

Don’t think it’s a waste of time – it’s the most important thing you could do.

Don’t think it’s awkward, embarrassing or lazy.

There’s no need to think at all if you don’t want to.

Because here’s the thing:

Your mind wants to process what happened. And, sure, you can bury your consciousness in distractions so you don’t have to.

Processing is painful, after all.

You can’t hold out forever, though.

You know those moments where your best ideas come to you? For plenty of folks, it’s when they’re drifting off to sleep, in the shower, on a long walk or driving a car. That’s because these activities are mental downtime. They’re so natural to you that your conscious mind can switch off, letting your unconscious creativity bubble through.

Guess what?

These moments are also when you process your difficult emotions.

Do you want to feel all the anger, grief, frustration, betrayal and pain while you’re driving?

Or while you’re trying to sleep?

Yeah, I didn’t think so.

Unless you let it out at a healthier time, your unconscious will use those moments to do what it needs to do.

If you’re lucky, that is.

Your unconscious might not let it all out then.

It might instead bury the pain deep.

When you process your discomfort, you can move through it. When you bury it, it’s always there, eating away at you.

It might even erupt at some unexpected time in the future.

If that happens, who knows how much downtime you’re in for.

It doesn’t have to be this way, though. People talk about releasing the pressure because it’s a great analogy. The earlier, more often and more thoroughly you vent the steam, the safer it is for everyone.

After a deep, thorough bit of downtime?

Struggle to really let go and relax?

The Neural Reset powers down your entire system – for some folks, more deeply than even when they sleep.

Who knows what old sensations you can cleanse and what wonderful treasures you can find in your mind?

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3 flavours of science lunacy

Plenty of folks straight up hate science.

Maybe it threatens their worldview or it’s an attack on their power.

If so, good riddance to either.

But here’s the thing:

You can wave the flag of science and pretend you speak in its name… and not. In fact, it’s absurdly common. It takes a lot of training (which, weirdly, they don’t teach much, even in science degrees) and discipline to avoid this mistake.

I see three common mistakes all the time.

So let’s talk about them so you can avoid the same thing.

I’m gonna use two examples here, just for a little comparing and contrasting:

The first is one science has proven – hypnosis, because it’s me and of course I’m gonna talk about that.

The second?

Not so much science-endorsing with this one.

There’s the old thing about people’s behaviour changing with the lunar cycle. You’ve probably heard that ERs see a spike of incidents on a full moon. I’m not disputing that. But I fell into a weird corner of the internet recently where they insisted it was caused by the Moon’s gravitational pull.

Their thinking is that the Moon’s gravity affects the tides, your brain is mostly water, therefore the Moon gravity affects your brain.

That gives us two ideas – one endorsed by science, the other, not.

One definitely true, the other probably nonsense.

Here we go.

Science Lunacy 1 – “that doesn’t sound like science!”

Science has a brand. When you think of it, you probably think of machines, laboratories, data, lab coats…

Then there are things that sound like not-science, like astrology and crystal healing.

It’s unscientific to think in these terms. Science demands you follow the evidence, develop hypotheses and test them as rigorously as possible.

Most of us don’t have the resources to do that – it takes a lot of time, not to mention expertise and equipment. Instead, most of us resort to labelling things by what brand they best fit into.

When some people hear about hypnosis, they say, “that sounds like nonsense!”

I don’t care what it sounds like. What does the evidence say?

There are entire journals dedicated to studying hypnosis. Thousands of experimenters, researchers, psychologists and, yeah, hypnotists have conducted countless experiments with it. It’s real and it’s effective.

It doesn’t matter how ‘sciency’ it seems – what matters is what the experiments show.

Now let’s turn to the Moon affecting the water in your brain. Someone who thinks in terms of science’s brand will say that’s impossible.

That’s suboptimal reasoning. If you can’t prove it’s impossible, don’t say it’s impossible.

In Bayesian terms – a far more rational toolset than brand-based thinking – it’s highly improbable. If there’s any evidence to back up this gravity-based claim, you can update your assessment. In the meantime, it’s less likely than this explanation:

In psychology, myths can become real.

Imagine I said having an apple in your pocket makes you feel more confident. That sounds ridiculous, right? But if you keep hearing that – from people who aced job interviews, launched new businesses, went on hot dates, all with an apple handy – you might start to doubt your doubts.

When you try it yourself, it might make you feel more confident… simply because you expect it to.

That could be what’s happening here. If people expect to act crazier on full moons, they might.

Notice how simple that explanation is, using already-established psychological mechanisms.

Any gravity-based explanation needs enough evidence to dislodge explanations this reasonable.

Science Lunacy 2 – “science doesn’t know everything, therefore I’m right!”

When folks say science doesn’t know everything, they’re right.

When they use it to state their opinions as facts, they’re wrong.

Science could never rule out hypnosis being real. Likewise, science can’t rule out this Brain Tide model of psychology.

But you can’t compare them with equal certainty.

Even before mainstream science endorsed hypnosis, there was a ton of evidence for it. Things like hypnotic anesthesia, where people remained conscious and pain-free during major surgery – that’s been around for centuries.

Even if hypnosis wasn’t real, something weird was happening.

Compare that to the evidence for Brain Tides:

Behaviour changes with the Moon, which has a thousand other explanations for it.

There’s a cutesy analogy about tides.

And… that’s about it.

In this theory’s defence, gathering the evidence to prove this would be hard. It could be correct, just difficult to prove.

Well, guess what?

Science doesn’t care for your excuses.

If you can’t test your idea, all you can say about it is it’s an intriguing, low-confidence hypothesis. It might be right, but probably not.

Science Lunacy 3 – “a study says this, therefore science has PROVEN it!”

To be strict with our terminology, science never proves anything.

It’s excellent at disproving. But all science can do is increase the confidence that a certain theory is right.

That’s science as a whole.

An individual study can’t even say that.

One of the gold standards of science is the meta-study – rather than looking at one bit of research, it looks at as many as it can find. One study might have biased researchers, a flawed methodology or just bad luck.

Comparing many studies averages out these glitches, hence why meta-studies are so great.

Even so, I can easily find high-quality meta-studies published in the last 12 months that contradict each other.

Science gets results through the sheer crushing weight of time and data. Every study is a snowflake added to an avalanche. A single flake can’t hurt a bad idea but a billion can bury it.

We know hypnosis is real, not because ‘a study’ ‘proved’ it, but because thousands of studies have failed to disprove it.

As of this writing, there’s a lot of hubbub about intermittent fasting. A 12-week study showed it didn’t help people lose weight.

“OMG science DISPROVED intermittent fasting lol!”

It did no such thing.

I’ve slightly reduced my confidence that it helps with weight loss. Then I moved on. I’m still going to fast, especially since I never did it for the weight loss benefits. If more studies find the same thing, I’ll adjust my beliefs accordingly.

As far as I can tell, there are no studies specifically researching the Brain Tide idea. I’m sure folks are measuring brainwaves and how they change over a month, but that’s well short of probing this theory.

That means you can believe in tides in your brain if you want – just don’t pretend you’re following the science if you do.

If you’re still reading, good for you. I don’t want to patronise you, but way to have an actual attention span.

Being able to focus more over a thousand words tells me you’ll be a better hypnotic subject than most folks.

Want to unleash more of your brain’s power and really leave others in your dust?

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Solve problems with bucks and batarangs

I like Batman. And I like the stories that explore how much Bruce Wayne needs Batman.

Is dressing up and punching people the best way to stop crime?

Maybe, maybe not.

But he’s addicted to it.

He needs Batman just as thoroughly as Gotham does.

And yet… how often does Batman need Bruce Wayne?

Being a rich, famous playboy gets you into places. And, while no one underestimates Batman, everyone underestimates ol’ Bruce…

But he’s not really a playboy, of course. That’s just another mask he wears.

How many masks do you have, pendo?

Probably fewer than you need.

What if you could step inside the skin of whoever you needed to be?

The perfect entrepreneur.

The perfect friend.

The perfect lover.

You can become whoever you want, right whenever you needed it.

The Hall of Heroes (module 18 of 19 in Monster Mind Edukaré) creates a place in your mind where you can store and retrieve these alter egos, sliding between them in seconds.

How much easier and more fulfilling will your life be when you’re always perfect for it?

It’s towards the end because it takes a lot to do this.

But Bruce Wayne didn’t become the Dark Knight without a lot of training too…

Use your nearest Bat-computer to check out this link:

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What if there are no introverts?

You probably know the definitions of introvert and extrovert:

An extrovert is someone who gets energised by social interactions and an introvert is someone who feels drained by them.

With that handy little guide, you’ve probably categorize yourself as one or the other.

But if you’ve called yourself an introvert, what if that’s not what’s actually happening?

I think about some moments in the past, times where things would drain me.

Like when I was younger, going to school felt weirdly exhausting. I didn’t know why. It shouldn’t have – there was nothing that was too taxing about it, but at the end of the day, I’d feel wrecked.

The same sort of thing would happen when I’d go for a walk around the block. I was physically capable of that and so much more. This was while I was a keen tennis player, so it’s not like I was out of shape. But by the end of it, I would just feel ready to curl up on the couch and nap.

It took me ages to figure out that I was feeling tense during these situations.

When I learned to just relax, then I was able to do these things and have energy to spare. I would come home after a walk or off to school and I would feel energised, once I let go of all that tension.

And the same thing was happening with my social interactions.

I had called myself an introvert because I’d always feel tired after hanging out with people, but then I realised I was just feeling tense while talking with people.

Again, when I learned to relax while chatting, suddenly I switched, by that definition, from being introvert to an extrovert.

A handy solution, no doubt.

But why was I feeling tense?

Because I was socially anxious. Being around people, I was worried about saying the wrong thing, obsessing a little about what they thought of me, doing my best to be interesting and charismatic (and generally failing at both).

So, what if your introversion isn’t introversion at all?

What if it’s actually social anxiety?

Taking this to its extreme, what if introversion doesn’t even exist? We’ve just called it the wrong thing this entire time.

Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t take some alone-time to rest and recharge. Trust me, I’d never say that.

But if you need to veg out after dealing with people all day, maybe it’s because you’re approaching it the wrong way.

Maybe if you learned how to relax your body and mind, dealing with people would be easy.

Maybe even refreshing.

This is how hypnosis can help you. When people exhaust you, maybe that’s just because you have some bad habits. Habits aren’t conscious – that’s the whole point of them – which makes them unconscious.

Which makes them in the domain of hypnosis.

If you want to change how others make you feel by the end of the day, either the Neural Reset or the Alleviate Anxiety program will help you.

Here’s how to sign up to both:

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How much does hypnosis cost?

Ah, it’s a simple question, one that comes up a lot. If you want to experience hypnosis, you might want to know what it’ll cost you first.

Fair enough, right? If you want to buy a car, it’s handy to know it’ll probably cost you tens of thousands of dollars.

So, on with the answer. What does hypnosis cost?

Uh…

Anywhere from ‘nothing’ to ‘the GDP of a small country’.

It can cost just about anything, and here’s why:

Hypnosis can be just about anything.

It can be an untrained, pimply teen lifelessly reading scripts into a webcam.

Or it can be someone with such an amazing presence, simply sitting with them is mesmerising.

Some hypnotists will help you overcome anxiety.

Others will help you rebuild your mind from the ground up.

What is each of those worth to you?

You came here asking how much it costs and I can’t answer you. Instead, I’ll give you two tips on how to find the best value hypnotists around:

First, find a new hypnotist in your area and see if they’re offering deals. Hypnotists thrive on testimonials and referrals, so it’s a common (and sensible) tactic for them to offer a few sessions for cheap to start off.

Will they be any good?

No idea.

But at least they’re underpricing themselves because they care about something other than money (that is, building their brand). Otherwise, cheap hypnosis should make your nose crinkle.

If that’s not your style then relax and smile, because here comes the second tip:

Follow the link below and read the sales page. You’ll get months, if not years of hypnosis for the price of a few sessions.

All in the convenience of your own home.

Here’s the link:

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Here’s why problems stick around (and what to do about them)

Take a moment to think about a problem in your life:

Maybe you could use more money, more freedom, more love or more smiles.

Now, some of that problem comes from your circumstances. A lack of money, for example, might be because you had an amazing job and now you don’t.

Having said that…

If you’re honest with yourself – and I mean brutally, painfully honest – you’ll see there’s something you’re doing to keep the problem alive.

Am I blaming the victim here? Or am I just stating the plain facts – there’s something you’re doing, or not doing, that ensures the problem continues?

I doubt you’re choosing to do this. No one wants to have these sorts of struggles. But there’s something you do, something that’s not a choice but is still within your control, to create and recreate this problem.

Example:

If you’re chronically single, maybe you go to the wrong places, say the wrong things, treat people the wrong way or give off the wrong subtle cues.

If you knew exactly what was holding you back, you could change it tomorrow and instantly improve your situation.

This is how you resolve problems – by thinking and acting differently about them.

So there’s my first claim: you’re keeping your problems alive.

My second claim?

Those problems are actually solutions to other problems.

Some of you, having read this far, are feeling weirdly angry right now. Not most of you, but some. All of us can improve our situation by taking new actions. The angrier you are, the bigger the changes you can make right now.

Going back to our example:

It’s common for folks to strike out in love because they come across as anxious. Timidity is not an attractive quality, no matter your gender or orientation. Sure, some folks like bold and brash personalities, while others prefer the quieter type… but either way, anxiety isn’t attractive.

So if it’s keeping you single, your anxiety – something you’re doing – is a problem.

But it’s also a solution.

A solution to what?

Maybe as a child you were bullied, or worse. Whenever you spoke up for yourself, someone used to punish you somehow.

If you think about a typical playground, that happened a lot.

So being a little reserved kept you safe back then.

That’s not a problem you face any more. As an adult, the world is more likely to reward courage than meekness.

Even so, this is a solution to a problem you once had.

And that’s why it’s so hard to shake.

Your unconscious mind wants to protect you. It still assumes the old problems are still valid threats, so its ‘solution’ is still what you need.

When you try to force your way around that problem – by acting tough and dressing sharp, even as you quake inside – your unconscious fights back to protect you.

That’s one of the many reasons hypnosis is so powerful.

It doesn’t force anything. Instead, it engages with your problem on the level it operates – your unconscious.

That’s how it leads to real solutions – ones that work with your life now.

It’s how you can change everything.

If you want to experience that, I offer a range of hypnotic solutions to your unconscious struggles.

Here’s a quick overview of them:

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Learning how to walk all over again

It’s surprising how many bad habits I let sneak back in this year.

Sure, I had any excuse… but I’ve always got an excuse. And it’s never the truth – that’s why I don’t say I have reasons.

For example…

A few years ago, I reinvented how I walk. I took some lessons from qi gong, persuasion training and swing dancing – a pretty obvious mix, I reckon – to walk with more speed, bounce and energy, with less effort.

Then I spent more of this year sitting down and less walking, so I fell back into old habits.

Well, I’m working on that. Just one day of conscious walking has done more good for me than most of what I’ve done recently.

If how you do anything is how you do everything, then my walking style needed some tender love and care.

I wonder if there’s a product idea in this – a guide to walking a better way. Not the tired, hunched-over shuffle I see most folks do, but real movement, like an athlete, martial artist or dancer.

But I’ll say this:

In isolation, this walking technique fixes a lot of quirks and bugs in my body.

In conjunction with every other practice I enjoy?

The results are incalculable.

It’s not 1 + 1 = 2, it’s 1 + 1 creates a universe.

So what do you get when you sum up 60 simple, easy habits, each capable of revolutionising your life?

You get a whole new you, free of your old limitations in, in most cases, just a few minutes a day.

You get Three-Score Navike, which is right here:

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It’s time, right now, to remember

This article can be a reminder to you, if you let it.

A reminder to check in with yourself. What’s going on in that precious, incredible mind and body of yours?

If you’re feeling any tension, release it.

If your vision is narrowed and focused, relax and expand it.

Do you need to stretch, breathe deeper or drink some water?

What wholesome thing are you craving?

For me, my vision is a little narrow, my face is a little tense, and I definitely need to stretch, breathe and drink some water. I could also use a little meditation right now.

One of the benefits of talking to you about self-care, your potential and how to overcome the challenges in your life is it reminds me to do the same.

So thank you for that.

And since this is Guided Thought article #1000, I must have thought about it a lot over the last few years.

I won’t say any more right now, because I’ve said the important stuff. Take this moment and give it to yourself, not your distractions.

Then, when you’re feeling even a little refreshed, see how much further a Neural Reset can take you into that:

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