A good test if something works is asking yourself: is this dangerous?
Medication is dangerous because it works. It alters your body in profound ways. This means if you abuse it (and sometimes even when you don’t) it can cause you harm.
Even kill you.
Homeopathy, though? Not so much. The only way diluted water can kill you is by drowning in it.
This is a great test for any self-improvement technique too.
Can mindfulness be dangerous? Sure – if you’ve never felt the mind-splitting horror of keeping your attention on the present moment for too long, you probably haven’t done it right.
Breathwork can be agonising. I’ve felt my body lock up with pain more than once, simply by breathing deeper.
(Why do I keep coming back to it? Because once the pain goes, I feel a hundred times better than when I started.)
But okay, that’s pain and discomfort.
Let’s go back to talking about real, mortal danger.
This isn’t the most dangerous tool in my mental arsenal but, if misused, the Problem Slayer can cause all sorts of harm.
It can delete phobias so thoroughly, you have no qualms petting a wild snake.
It can erase all the joy, love and compassion you feel towards a person.
You could probably even use it to eliminate all physical pain. I’ve never tried that one – obviously – but it would work.
Some of you are thinking I’m talking out of my pooper here.
But if you know anything about hypnosis or NLP, you know how easy this is.
Not to worry, though. If you follow the instructions, you can use the Problem Slayer with total confidence in its safety.
Especially because it’s module 12 of 19 in the Monster Mind Edukaré system. By the time you reach it, you know more than you need about how to handle it.
If you’re sick of your problems and want to slay them dead, then you know what to do now:
How we will soon miss them, if we don’t already.
As we start filtering back to work, the world starts chipping away at all that relaxation.
Maybe you’re one of the rare few who genuinely enjoys their work.
Who would gladly pay to do what they do.
For most of us, though? We need a whole lot of compensation to roll out of bed each morning. Even if you overall enjoy your work, it’s probably not something you’d do for free.
It’s like swapping sanity for money… at an awful exchange rate.
This is how it doesn’t take long to start feeling the need for another holiday.
For some folk, that kicks in after a couple of months.
For others, a couple of hours.
And then there are those who don’t know what I mean, because there is no grace period after time off. As soon as they walk into the office, it’s like they never left.
In my decade or so of cubicle dwelling, I lasted anywhere from two to six months after a decent break. Then I’d be feeling so frazzled I’d crave another one.
That’s quite a range.
Taking a break at the mid-year mark? That’s manageable.
Needing one twice per season? That’s a smidge less so.
And here’s the thing:
While external circumstances played a role, the biggest difference came from the inside.
From what I was doing to keep the holiday freshness alive.
The muck of reality has a way of creeping in if you let it.
It doesn’t have to, though.
Train your mind and you can keep the relaxation alive for a little longer.
You can even learn ways to relax quicker and deeper than you manage now. This is why monks often seem so calm – maybe even a little too calm. But you can gain all the benefits without joining a monastic order or spending each moment in excruciating deliberate awareness.
Monster Mind Edukaré builds on what you are. And, sure, some of that involves entraining mindfulness.
Most of it?
Much easier, more fun and more rewarding than that.
Here’s the link:
There are two types of New Year’s Resolutions:
The disciplined kind. The ones focusing on doing more of the tough stuff, like eating better, exercising more and working harder.
Important stuff. Folk with those resolutions might already be regretting it.
Then there are the fun ones. Socialise more. Be more outgoing. Chase opportunities.
Also important stuff.
Changing your habits is always challenging.
But it can be less challenging when they’re fun.
It’s easier to stick with something that rewards you immediately. Maybe slogging it out at the gym does that for you, but that’s not the case for most folk. Partying, though? That’s more immediately gratifying.
So, what then? This is a neat thing to think about – how does it help me right now?
Well, I’d say the first thing is to figure out your own style.
Do you need fun resolutions to keep you going?
Do you believe in no pain, no gain?
Either way, there’s going to be something for you here. With 60 habits to choose from, plus a few awkward stories of how I failed with them, you can have fun no matter how seriously you take it.
Here’s the link for fun, serious resolutions that work:
If you want to be happy, present and stress-free this year, you can be.
But first, story time.
In the late 1500s, Bragadini wandered into Venice and won over its nobility. Venice was struggling, you see, and this man promised them a new golden age.
In exchange for a hefty fee, of course.
A few problems:
Firstly, that wasn’t his real name. He had no noble title so he stole one. The real Bragadini had died much earlier and wasn’t around to say this man wasn’t his son.
Secondly, this fake Bragadini claimed to be an alchemist. That was his solution to Venice’s woes – he’d turn lead into gold.
This was not their best investment.
You might wonder how he pulled this scam off, though. After all, Europe was crawling with con artists of all kinds. Bragadini was not the only fake alchemist in the land. How did he swindle not just a noble but an entire city’s worth of them?
It was easy enough.
He showed them.
He would throw lavish dinners and throw gold to the crowd. Every day, he dressed well, ate well and partied hard. Every time people saw him, his presence screamed of wealth and power.
Of course, the real source of his wealth was the money he scammed from the nobility. They’d pay him to turn lead into gold. He’d simply sell the lead and buy the gold with the money they gave him.
What’s the lesson here?
It’s not to be a con artist – eventually he was found out and chased out of town.
No, the lesson is easier than that. If people look at you and see gold, they’ll assume you’re an alchemist. If you radiate positivity, good will and happiness, they’ll assume you’re amazing to be around.
This isn’t a trick – you actually will be.
When you visibly glow with joy, it’s contagious. Friends, family, colleagues, even strangers start to smile back.
It becomes a virtuous cycle.
If you do that in 2020, everyone will have a fantastic time around you. No dramas, no drunken arguments about politics, no passive-aggressive nonsense.
Well, maybe fewer of them. Few enough to not muck up your flow.
But what kind of lifehack is that? For an amazing new year, simply radiate joy?
Well, my advice isn’t over yet.
Because the best place to start is by levelling up your conversational skills. Know how to build and defuse conversations, and everything else becomes much easier.
If only there were a simple yet robust guide on this.
Practical enough to let you start immediately, yet not transparently technique-y.
Ah yes, if only…
You mean a guide like this?
Here’s something elusively obvious: Your unconscious mind holds on to old copies of your personality.
How is that elusive?
Most people don’t know that.
How is it obvious?
Have you ever seen an adult get so angry or scared they regress to childhood? I’ve seen grown men in suits throw literal temper tantrums.
Maybe if you’re honest, you can think of that happening to you.
This is an interesting fact, perhaps. Your mind archives old versions of you, like a keen collector.
Or perhaps ‘hoarder’ is more accurate…
To not be hoarders ourselves, we need to ask: is this a cool idea we can file away, a small addition to our collection of interesting facts…
Or can we use this information to our advantage?
Everything in psychology is relevant and useful, so long as it’s true.
If you want more creativity, fun, intuition, friendship, joy, love, spontaneity, play and freedom…
Well, a mystic will tell you to embrace your inner child.
I’ll tell you the same thing (from a different perspective).
There’s an archived version of You who has all of that. What they lack in wisdom, talents and experience, they make up for with a fiery delight we adults tend to unlearn.
You can reconnect with that, right now.
You can bring the best of that version of You and combine it with your current You.
A new You forged from the raw materials of your old You.
This doesn’t happen with conscious thinking, though. In some ways, conscious thought is what created this mess in the first place.
Approach this idea with unconscious thinking, though?
You’ll be surprised with how natural this can be:
This new year is going to have some terrible moments. Beloved celebrities are going to die. There’ll be natural disasters… and maybe some not natural ones. People will betray you, take things out on you and make your life hell for no reason.
I hope none of this is news to anyone.
And I hope no one sees this as the full story.
Some people will. These things will happen and they’ll say “screw you, 2020!” Just like they did in 2019, 2018, 2017, 2016 and… well, every year as long as this has been a thing.
Don’t hate the year – it’s just minding its own business.
Besides, you’re being wildly ungrateful. 2020 is going to have great moments too. If you choose to focus only on the negative – no matter how bad your year is – then 2021 will be even worse.
A year is like a bag of rocks. No two are alike and it’s pointless to judge one.
Actually, that’s a bad analogy (for so many reasons). It’s not pointless to judge an entire year – it’s downright dangerous.
When something bad happens, your full attention goes to it. It’s called the negativity bias and it kept our ancestors alive. The apple tree over in the distance is worth noticing. But if there’s a hungry wolf between you and it, all your attention should go to the predator.
There’ll be other apple trees but it only takes one savage beast to end you.
You also learn from negative events. If wolves like to hang around apple trees, then you’d better learn to be wary of them. Your ancestors were the ones who didn’t repeat foolish mistakes or ignore threats.
This means how we react to bad news is how we react to everything. If every minor inconvenience sends you spiralling, then you’ll never escape the vortex.
People like this waste so much time and energy on petty drama. Worst of all, they drag other people into their depths.
So what am I saying – be all Pollyanna, no matter what happens? “Oh good, my house is on fire, yay!”
Of course not.
You’re allowed to get pissed off, scared and frustrated. It’s healthy and appropriate to meet bad experiences with negative emotions – that’s why we have them.
It’s a question of how you deal with it all.
If your life is in danger, you could freeze. Or you could run through fire, get everyone clear of the flames and take steps to never let that happen again.
Both are fear responses.
Only one makes you stronger.
This isn’t a question of how smart you are. Intelligence has nothing to do in the moment where there’s no time to think.
Most tests require good instincts in the moment.
The time for thinking is later, when you review what went well and what you’ll do next time.
And this is why 2020 is going to be amazing. I can’t say bad things won’t happen – who could? But I can say you’ll react to them well.
You can take action in the moment and reflect on it after. Every success and obstacle will make you smarter. You’ll access more and more resources inside of you.
Some people face a setback and it breaks them.
Others get on with life, rolling with whatever happens.
You can learn this – just not from a textbook. It isn’t that kind of skill. No, it’s the sort of attitude that naturally emerges when you train your mind in the right way.
Mind training, like physical training, works best with variety, structure, discipline and the right technique.
Just like the training you can find right here:
The teeniest, tiniest sliver of 2019 remains. I hope it’s been a great year for you. Either way, though, it’s not too late to make it even better.
A bold claim, I know.
You’d need to do something that works. Something with proven results, that’ll make the dying hours of the year even better.
And it has to work fast.
That’s where Three-Score Navike comes in:
It’s a quick, fun read. Especially fun because I talk about a few of my embarrassing failures. I know what works mostly from failing a bunch of times.
Each of the 60 habits it describes pack a punch. They improve your mind and body in deep and profound ways.
And most of them are simple enough to begin immediately.
End the year on a high.
Start the next one on a strong foot.
Keep improving for months, even after everyone else abandons their New Year’s Resolutions.
Become even better than that.
Here’s the link to get you started:
If you’ve heard what folk are aiming for in 2020, I’m sure you’ve noticed a few things.
Some folk are too ambitious. They want to do everything next year.
Others are too vague. They want to “be healthier” but don’t seem to know what to do about that.
Others still are too narrow. They want to spend an entire year becoming 1% better at something.
Good luck to them, honestly.
But if you want real resolutions with real firepower, try 60 of them. Especially if they’re all specific and achievable.
While everyone flounders with a couple of doomed projects, you can power through this amazing list. You could focus on five each month – even if 80% of them fizzle, that’s still 12 ways you’ve improved dramatically over the year.
This is New Year’s Resolutions rocket fuel.
So fill up your tank and get flying now:
As the sands of 2019 run low, lots of folk are seeing the New Year as a fresh start.
A chance to be better.
Richer, happier, healthier, freer.
Leaving all the old problems behind and really living without regrets.
A goal without a plan is a wish.
And radical change requires radical action.
If you’re hoping buying a gym membership will make everything magically work out, I’ve got some bad news for you.
Doing the same thing as 2019 will lead to the same results.
Doing something slightly different won’t change much either.
If you want to really transform your circumstances, then it’s time to fully invest in yourself.
Now is the time to change your thinking on a deep, unconscious level. Reprogramming your reactions, attitudes and believes, and everything else will begin to shift.
Anything short of that is clumsy, painful, frustrating and prone to failure.
It’s your choice.
So make a better one.
Get your hands on a mind training program that will take you all of 2020 – at least – to master. Every week you spend sharpening your brain is a week full of genuine improvement.
You need a program overflowing with amazing potential, just like you.
Here’s the link for exactly that:
A few weekends ago, I didn’t get out of bed until noon.
Is that normal for me? No, I’m usually up by 7am or so on weekends.
Did I go to bed late? No, I went to bed at the usual time.
Did I have a rough night? Nope – slept fine.
I must have really needed it, huh?
Except I woke up feeling both rested and exhausted.
And before you make any lewd and crude jokes, it was nothing like that either.
Here’s what happened.
I woke up and I felt things inside of me holding me back. These were old emotional blocks – the sort I’ve carried around most of my life.
The source of my greatest self-inflicted miseries.
I’d fallen into the trap of being too busy for self-care, so I took some time. I used my Problem Slayer technique on the first block I could find.
Then I blasted the next one.
Then the next one.
At some stage, I passed out. When I woke up an hour or so later, I found another block and went after it.
And so on.
I don’t recommend doing this. The Problem Slayer is intense, even a little dangerous. Slay the wrong thing and you might rob yourself of your greatest strength.
As with everything else, it pays to start small, practice and build up to the big stuff.
This rampage through my own mind was clearly draining. I haven’t slept like that in yonks.
But it was the right thing to do. On the other side of it, my mind feels clearer and cleaning. And bigger, as if my consciousness has grown a little.
That’s what happens when you stop running all the old patterns.
I wonder how long it would have taken traditional talk therapy to get this result. Probably years, assuming I had a great therapist. I managed this in one morning, plus some time here and there to clean things up.
Again, I don’t recommend rampaging like this. It practically knocked me into a coma. Then I spent the rest of the day (read: the afternoon) somewhere between brilliant and foggy.
Used in small doses, the Problem Slayer will free you without the side effects.
How do you get it, I hear you ask?
It’s module 12 of 19 in my Monster Mind Edukaré program.
Read a couple of ripper testimonials for the Problem Slayer here: