Do you trust yourself?

Your unconscious sees things that you never will.

And it whispers what it knows to you.

This is what instinct, intuition and gut feelings are all about.

How well it whispers – that is, how clearly and how often – depends on you. Think about it from your unconscious mind’s perspective. If you gave advice to a friend who kept ignoring it, ignoring you, even insulting you… after a while, wouldn’t you give up?

Your unconscious is the same. Listening to your instincts is a habit – a skill.

The more you trust yourself, the sharper your instincts become.

How do you manage that?

The best advice I heard on this comes from Jonny Dupré – charisma coach and all-round superb guy.

He once told me to think about all the times your instincts saved your life.

How they pulled you back from that speeding car.

Or warned you away from that deranged lunatic.

That’s the ultimate show of gratitude and appreciation.

Do that and you’ll start to notice more and do better… without ever really knowing why.

Of course, that’s how you start rebuilding the relationship with your unconscious. And like any instinct, the task never ends. You can always go deeper into rapport, trust and mutual respect.

All of the material in Monster Mind Edukaré builds that relationship.

You can work your way through it again and again, with it always improving things. There’s no law of diminishing returns here – every time you revisit this content, your situation improves.

I won’t say you’ll get infinite value out of this.

But I sure could.

So you might want to check it out here:


Are cigarettes hypnotising you?

I doubt any (well, many) of you have ever heard a cigarette whisper “look into my eyes, you’re getting sleeeeepy….”

That doesn’t mean cigarettes aren’t hypnotising you. You might not think of the pack of smokes in your desk draw as having any ‘mind control’ abilities, but… well, it kinda does.

And this is great news!

When you see your cigarettes, get to your smoke break or feel the need for a distraction, your mind turns to lighting them up. If you’re trying to quit, you’ll struggle to think of something else until the urge passes.

Maybe this works for you. Even if it does, it’s not mentally cheap. It takes enormous processing power to not think of something.

Especially if something is constantly hypnotising you.

You could think of it this way: there are times in the day when you expect to smoke. Your unconscious mind tracks that and will cheerfully remind you if you forget. No matter what your conscious mind thinks or wants, your unconscious follows its usual programming.

Or you could think of it like this:

You know you shouldn’t cluck like a chicken in front of drunk strangers. You know smoking depletes your health, money and self-respect. Hypnosis can make you forget all that and take action anyway.

Like I say, this is good news.

Because if you normally fight hypnotic programming consciously… well, it can work.

But it sure takes it out of you.

And it probably won’t work. Willpower alone is the least successful method for quitting.


You could use the best defence against hypnosis:

Even more hypnosis.

Because I could say I can hypnotise you into forgetting all about smoking. I could mention how I can delete your cravings and the habit at their very roots.

All in the comfort of your home and office, even.

Instead, I’ll say this:

I use what I know to dehypnotise you.

To break the hold cigarettes have.

To free you to make your own decisions. If you want to light up, you could. If not, you don’t. It really does become that simple once you’re out of that trance and into a better one.

If you’re sick of quitting taking so much effort, here’s how to beat cigarettes where they live – your unconscious mind.

You can learn how with the Breathe Freely program, which is module #8 in Monster Mind Edukaré:


In the cuisine of life, what is trance?

In some ways, trance is like salt. It makes everything better.

Whether you’re sitting alone, sharing a drink with friends or working hard, it’s a whole lot nicer with hypnosis.

Where that analogy breaks down is too much salt is overpowering. With the right sort of trance, more is always better.

So maybe it’s a highly nutritious nootropic – something good for the body and brain.

Or it’s a nearly-magical spice that tastes different every time you eat it.

Perhaps this metaphor is a bad idea. I think the only real parallel between great food and hypnosis is how much I crave both. They really make life worth living.

Because that’s what surprises folks about hypnosis. I mean, it sure surprised me.

You think of it as a tool to help others.

And a way to unlock your own potential.

It’s only when you start getting into it do you realise:

This is more than just fun. This is deeply satisfying, like a warm blanket on a cold day, a tall glass when you’re thirsty or getting that promotion you’ve worked towards for years.

In a word, it’s enriching.

Or should that be ‘nourishing’?

Maybe you should go deeper with hypnosis and you can tell me:


How to hypnotise your muscles

Wait… what?

Yep, you can put your muscles into a deep, hypnotic trance.

And I don’t mean in a holistic, “hypnosis works on all of you” sort of way. I mean you can choose a muscle or group – say, your right bicep – and hypnotise it.

It’s a strange sensation – at least at first.

Then it gets interesting.

Because when you enter a hypnotic trance, you become relaxed, suggestable and open to new possibilities.

So when you hypnotise a muscle, it relaxes.

It becomes suggestable. Some examples: it can double its endurance, release tension or even let go of pain, simply because you tell it too.

And it can open up new possibilities. One neat exercise is to take a problem and give it to your arm to solve. Writing this is awkward because my right arm is frozen, working its way through some emotional blocks.

(Insert a joke here. Something like: “sure, THAT’S why you type one handed”. I’ll lol.)

The word hypnosis means ‘sleep of the nervous system’, because that’s how early thinkers thought it worked. They were wrong about the sleep part, but right about the nervous system part.

Hypnosis happens as much in the body as the brain.

And that’s how my Neural Reset works. I hypnotise your body – muscle group by muscle group – until your mind has no chance but to follow.

It’s fun, it’s effective and it’s more than a little strange.

Which is why it works so well.

If you’re sick of trying to think your way through problems, perhaps it’s time for a different approach.

You can sign up for a Neural Reset here:


If it isn’t matter, does it matter?

One of Rene Descartes’ more interesting contributions was what they call mind-body duality.

The body, it’s clear to see, is made of matter.

But what’s the mind made of?

You can point to the brain, of course. The hardware that runs you isn’t hard to find.

But what about the software?

The animating spirit that makes you move, while rocks stay put?

Descartes didn’t know about biochemistry or bioelectricity. All he knew was something kept living things moving.

And living things could turn into not-so-living things, even while keeping all their components.

So he separated the mind and the body into two distinct components. There was no reason to suppose the body – being nothing more than matter – could influence the strange stuff of the spirit. Or that the ephemeral ghost in the machine could change the mechanical nature of the body too much.

Most folks see this as a mistake. We now are rediscovering just how tightly intertwined the mind and body are. If we’d never separated them in the first place, we’d be so much further alone.

… right?

I’m not so sure.

Viewing the body as a simple machine allowed scientists to study it as one. They probed each part of it in isolation to see what makes it tick.

This led to all sorts of advancements and new understandings… even though the driving paradigm was wrong.

Your mental state can alter your brain’s chemistry, which can influence your body from head to toe. Likewise, your neurochemistry can alter your mental state.

And your nervous system and immune system interact all the time – the entire field of psychoneuroimmunology is dedicated to that.

Your brain can even upregulate or switch off genes. While it can’t change your genetic blueprint, it can change how it expresses. Which leads to a modern koan: if you have the genes for a disease but never express them, aren’t you actually healthy?

So, yeah, Descartes was wrong. The mind and the body are deeply intertwined.

Like I say, I suspect this was a useful error. It’s a wrong premise that led folks to rightly think they could understand life.

You might not agree with that, which is fine.

What we can all agree on is if, in the 21st Century, you think the body is separate from the mind…

Well, there’s no excusing that.

Of course, that doesn’t apply to you… right? You know about mind over matter and the placebo effect.

But lemme ask you this:

If you have a headache, what do you do?

Do you treat the pain as a valid and useful part of your experience?

Do you wonder what conditions caused it – say, dehydration or a lack of fresh air?

Or do you reach straight for the aspirin?

I’m not saying pills don’t have their place. Not everyone knows the thought-based ways to reduce discomfort, whether it’s acute or chronic.

But if your first (or only) instinct is to pop a pill, it doesn’t matter what you say you believe. You treat your body like a machine – like pain is a bleeping smoke alarm and you’re jamming the mute button.

It doesn’t have to be that way, though.

You can learn to use your mind to influence your body like never before.

You’re capable of more than you can imagine.

The mind is exceptionally powerful – and the mind-body connection runs deeper than you think.

I’m not promising miracles. Just normal things that seem miraculous.

Stop being a passenger and start being a pilot:


Proprio inception

Here’s a curious thing you didn’t think about once.

Then, when you learn it, you can’t help but be aware of it:


The fancy word for your awareness of your body… and how it exists in space.

If you look up at a tennis ball, you can catch it – even when your hands are out of sight.

It’s pretty neat, if you think about it.

And what’s great is how clean an example it is of something that’s conscious and unconscious.

At any time, you can become aware of your body and how it fills the space.

But most of the time, it’s instinct.

You can walk through the woods, mostly dodging branches and roots. Even when you focus on other things.

It’s not perfect, of course.

And it’s not equal among everyone – ninjas will have better proprioception than someone glued to social media.

But still, it works.

And it’s quite sophisticated, if you think about it. It doesn’t take much environmental weirdness to confuse a robot, but humans could navigate a cobblestone street on a rolling cruise ship.

Here’s my complaint with this delightful awareness you rarely become conscious of:

It’s incredibly biocentric.

According to your proprioception, your arm is part of you and the air isn’t. Yet you could lose an arm without changing who are you (it might change what you can do, sure, but not who you are). Lose the air, though? You’ll realise just how much that changes you.

You might wonder how serious I’m being there.

I wonder that, too.

But I bring it up for a reason, though.

Deep mind training – whether it’s hypnosis, meditation or something else – both breaks down and enhances this sense.

It creates that feeling of ‘oneness with everything’ you hear so much about.

And you can become fully aware of your own body.

Sometimes, though not usually, at the same time.

It’s a curious side effect.

Or is it the entire point of the training?

Something you’ll have to puzzle out as you take the next step here:


Can a hypnotist “take advantage” of a subject?

Let’s say you’re a hypnotist and you put someone in a deep trance. What can you do to them? Can you rob them? Hurt them? Get them to do crazy stuff for your own amusement?

Hypnosis makes someone more suggestible. Does that mean you can suggest that they want to give their wallet to you?

I know people who disagree with me. They say that hypnosis only works because you become more suggestible. They say hypnosis, like everything else, is just as easily a tool for good or evil.

Well, there’s truth to that. Hypnosis can do a lot of harm.

But here’s the thing about that:

Hypnosis makes you suggestible, not stupid.

In a trance, you’re more open to new ideas and suggestions. When someone says you’re relaxing now or you’re free of your problems, you’re more likely to believe it.

But note that it makes you more suggestible, not infinitely suggestible. “You can relax now” is plausible. Some part of you believes it. A little bit more suggestibility and you’ll accept the idea now.

“You want to hand me your wallet” requires a lot more suggestibility. No part of you believes it. In fact, you disbelieve it strongly.

Almost all subjects would snap out of a trance the moment someone tried that.

But there’s a wide gap between almost everyone and everyone. So it’s still possible… unless you, as the client/subject, follow some basic precautions.

If you’re still concerned that someone could use your suggestibility against you, here are some tips:

Find a hypnotist who acts like a professional. Don’t just hand over your unconscious to any random person. Find someone skilled and trustworthy. Someone who you know already or has a business will do. After all, if they try anything illegal, you can hand them over to the cops.

Cultivate a healthy sense of paranoia. Before you see the hypnotist, commit to accepting all helpful suggestions and blocking all harmful ones.

Ignore the tip above. Honestly, you’re far more likely to block positive suggestions than accept negative ones.

Or you could forget all that and practice hypnosis. You can always trust yourself.

And if something strange happens, you’ll have the tools to reverse the suggestions. Think about it this way – you get better at hypnosis with practice. You get better at entering a trance the more you do it.

You also get better at leaving trances.

So if someone tries something dodgy, you can pop right out of trance and walk away.

That’s not a typical reason to learn hypnosis, but it sure is a valid one. That’s because it’s the best way to get all the benefits. You’re in control, like learning to cook instead of hiring a personal chef.

So eat up while the eating’s good:


Too old? Too young? Two solutions

I know many young people feel the world doesn’t take them seriously.

They might be in their tweens, their teens, even their early ’20s or later.

And whenever they think of an idea, or they come up with a plan, people don’t even give it a second thought. It’s always the same:

“Yeah, but what would you know? Come back when you have some experience.”

And yet the funny thing is – for a certain definition of funny – old people say the same thing happens to them.

No one takes their ideas seriously.

Everyone looks for the younger people, the people who are more up to date, more in touch, more energetic or whatever.

As if experience were a bad thing…

So we have on the one hand young people being pushed aside until they have more experience. And on the other, there’s old people being pushed aside as if they’ve already been used up.

If you’re on the receiving end of this, it sucks.

But you know choosing to play the victim is no choice at all.

What can you do about it?

I invite you to think about things this way:

Youth is a virtue and so is age, but the great thing is that they’re not the same virtue.

They are different – even complementary.

Just think about all the positive things about being young – things like enthusiasm and energy and optimism and just this relentless drive to keep going.

And think about all the good things that come with age, like wisdom, experience and instinct, and just being able to see through the nonsense with a bit more perspective.

Whatever situation you’re in, whether you’re too young to be taken seriously, or too old to be taken seriously, or somewhere in between, I invite you to bring the best of both of those qualities.

You have two ways to do that:

The first is to lean into the strengths of your stereotype. If you lack experience, how can you compensate for that with your greater mental flexibility?

(After all, you haven’t learned bad habits or false limitations yet…)

And if your credentials aren’t as fresh as the next person’s, how can you compensate for that with your worldly wisdom?

Some things to think about there.

The second strategy is to prove the haters wrong.

If you’re young, then how can you be wise? How can you have a broader perspective on things?

And if you are older, think about all the ways that you could be enthusiastic and energetic again.

It’s a classic strategy:

Lean in to your strengths and develop your weaknesses.

Give it some thought and you’ll find the answers.

Then again, maybe you want a shortcut.

So how about a list of 60 actionable ways you can improve your life, right now?

The vast majority are free and corona-proof, so there’s no reason why you can’t jump in right now:


Bliss, insight and trance

Let’s dip a toe or two into the hypnotic sciences for a moment.

Before we had gizmos to peek inside the brain, scientists disagreed on the topic.

Did hypnosis work?

If it worked, was it actually doing anything ‘real’ or was it all in the subject’s head?

It was weirdly controversial. I say ‘weirdly’ because anyone who looked into it could see otherwise-impossible things happen.

Like surgeons operating on people without using painkillers or any drugs at all.

In fact, the patients remained conscious throughout the procedure. And not only did they feel no pain during, they felt less pain and had fewer complications afterward than other patients.

(If that sounds too good to be true, there’s a catch. Not every patient can reliably reach that state, and not every hypnotist know how to  cultivate it. Drugs don’t so much work ‘better’ as ‘more easily’.)

Something unexplained was happening here, whether it’s hypnosis or something else.

Now, hypnosis – as a tool that’s both real and effective – has science’s stamp of approval. Scientists no longer question whether it works, just what its limits are.

Like all changes of attitude, this had many catalysts.

One of them being the ability to see inside a living brain.

Once it became trivial to see brainwaves, blood flow and electrical activity, it became easy to test. Researchers used these tools on folks, hypnotised them and saw the changes for themselves.

And, boy, what changes they saw.

Anyone who says they know what hypnosis does to the brain exaggerates. The brain is still mysterious.

But we know some of the things hypnosis does.

It shifts the brainwaves into those associated with deep, meditative trances.

Your lobes being to synchronise their brainwaves.

Both hemispheres communicate more with each other.

And it alters blood flow in strange and interesting ways.

Again, what all this means isn’t entirely clear… but it’s not a total mystery, either.

When your lobes and hemispheres  sync up like this, fun things tend to follow.

Anything from a state of deep and pure bliss…

… to a sudden flash of insight, where you see everything in perspective…

… to a richer sense of awareness, as if someone turned up the resolution of the world.

This can feel deeply pleasant, all the way through to mystical revelation where you feel at one with the universe.

Even a stage hypnosis routine, played purely for gags, can create both these states.

(Although the first one is much more likely.)

And that’s just the tip of what hypnosis can do.

Because in this mental state, your limitations can simply melt away. Do it enough and they never come back.

To begin to experience that, and more, then I invite you to read what’s on offer here:


Life = orange juice

If I were to tell you the secret to a long happy successful life is to concentrate more, then many of you would scoff at that.

You would scoff either because you’re already concentrating all the time, aren’t you?

Even when you’re zoned out on the couch watching Netflix or whatever, you’re still paying attention.

And some of you will scoff because you’re already paying so much attention at work, with your studies, raising your kids, that by the end of the day, you’re can’t pay attention.

You got nothing left to spare. You’ve burned through all your mental resources just getting through the day.

Either way, consider this a vital update:

Whether you think you’re already always concentrating…

Or whether you think you’re already giving it your all and you have no capacity for it left…

… there’s one thing I’d invite you to consider.

Think about how an athlete moves their body. A couch potato thinks they’re in touch with their body because they can feel it, they’ve been living in the body since the day they were born. And someone who pushes themselves to the extremes every day, smashing themselves at the gym, breaking themselves on the sporting field, they also think that they’re in touch with their body.

But the way a true athlete uses their body is different.

True athletes move their body in a way that’s almost effortless.

When they need to explode with power, they explode.

When they need to just keep on going, they keep on going.

And this is how it works with your mind as well.

If you neglect it, if you’re not paying extra special care with it – and if you’re not training it – then you might think it’s in good shape. But it’s not.

And if you spend eight hours of the day just slamming it, just forcing it to focus, pumping it full of caffeine and sugar to keep it running and then crashing at the end of the day, that’s not a great way of doing it either.

A more enlightened approach is to burst with energy when you need it, but otherwise, to focus in a more relaxed and gentle and sustainable way.

Because concentrating doesn’t have to require effort.

Well… not much effort, anyway.

With the right mental preparation, you could spend (say) a tenth of the effort and still focus just as much.

But I’m not going to teach you how to do that.

Why not? Am I nothing but a mind training tease?

No – it’s because I don’t have to.

You’ll find yourself thinking more efficiently and effectively – and concentrating with less effort – simply as a side effect.

A side effect of what, you ask?

Why, everything on this page:



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