A despotic ruler has ruled a small nation for decades. During this time, she has committed – deliberately and at scale – every sort of atrocity you can think of. She has turned the country into a clear, unambiguous example of cruel and unenlightened leadership.
(Yes, this dictator is a woman. No glass ceilings!)
The dictator has grown reflective towards the end of her life. At the time, her decisions made sense to her. Her country was troubled and she was doing her best to stabilise things.
Looking back, though, she realises that all she’ll have is a legacy of violence.
When she dies, one of her generals will take over and continue the cycle.
There is a spark of hope, though: the country has a small but vibrant – and growing – democratic movement.
She wants to give her people a chance to move forward under their own guidance.
She knows that the first thing an elected government will do is try her and her inner circle for war crimes.
So she goes to the UN, seeking a deal. She will allow free, open and transparent elections in her country – in which she won’t run. Whatever the result, she will honour it and step down.
In return, she gets her own private tropical island, complete with plenty of creature comforts. Oh, and 50 elite bodyguards to keep her safe until her natural death.
What do you think of the deal?
If you value justice, it’s abhorrent. She doesn’t deserve to live a life of luxury, paid for by the international community – who could spend that money elsewhere. Why should she be rewarded for her many, many horrific crimes?
On the other hand, what do you value more? Punishing the dictator? Or this rare chance to elevate millions of people out of tyranny, violence and fear?
If it were me, I would give her that deal in an instant. Heck, I’d sweeten the deal. I’d give her private chefs, free subscriptions to streaming services, an anti-aircraft gun – whatever it took to make her really smile.
Because, as far as regime changes go, that’s cheap.
And who knows – others might follow her example.
This isn’t some abstract hypothetical – the airline industry has something like this. There are mechanisms where employees can raise safety concerns – even if they were caused by their own incompetence or corruption – without fear of legal reprisal.
Because, hey, safety matters more than justice. It’s better to keep hundreds of people alive than to punish the people responsible for their deaths.
I had plenty of time to think about that earlier today, as I sat in a plane on the ground for almost as long as the flight was supposed to be. They had found a mechanical concern and were going over it, again and again, to make sure it wasn’t a problem.
I was grateful for that. I’d rather show up late and in one piece. In the choice between airline safety and convenience, I’m happy to make sure safety is solid first.
You can probably relate to these examples in your own life.
Sometimes, you want something… while at the same time, you don’t.
You want to start a business… but you don’t like the risk or how much time it’ll take from your family.
You want to find love… but you don’t want to be hurt again.
Somehow, you have two things pulling you in different directions – two things you need, but you can’t have both.
Or can you…?
Consider airlines. Air travel is extremely safe. And, sure, it could easily be more convenient, but it’s still pretty easy to jump on a plane and fly hundreds of kilometres.
It’s not perfect at either, but it has plenty of both.
This is why Threshold Coaching and Crossroads Training is so awesome.
If you know what you want to do but can’t bring yourself to do it – whether that’s find love, start a business, stand up for yourself more or look after your health – it’s because you want that and something else, but you’re not sure yet how to have both.
You could imagine an airport that has wonderful security but is completely inaccessible. Concrete walls, barbed wire, machine gun nests, no doors, no aircraft even…
You could imagine one with plenty of convenience but no security. After rocking up, you simply walk onto the plane…
Neither example proves that you can’t “have it all”. You might think of security and convenience as opposites, but that doesn’t mean you have to trade off one for the other. All it proves is that the system needs some tweaking before you can have both.
Your life’s the same. Even if you want opposite things, you can have them.
Heck, if you want to work harder and relax more, you absolutely can have more of both than what you have right now.
In fact, with a little careful thinking, that’s easy.
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