The thing that’s actually missing

Stop me if this sounds familiar:

You have some goal or milestone.

You want a new home, a partner, more money, more freedom, to travel more.

Through hard work, patience and a smidge of luck, you get it…

… only to find that gnawing sensation is still there. You thought that reaching this goal would soothe that, but it didn’t. That sense of frustration, emptiness or incompleteness still lingers.

How could you be so wrong about what you want?

At a simple level, this comes from your addiction to narratives. Something feels off in your life, you’re single, so you tell yourself a story that having a partner will make everything feel right.

Maybe it will.

But how do you know?

Wouldn’t it be nice to know what’s really missing before you chase it?

Therein lies the rub, pendo. Anything you think about what your life needs is simply part of your narrative. Whether it’s right or wrong comes down to luck more than anything.

Imagine spending decades chasing riches, when all you really needed was a community you could belong to.

So… what do you do?

Put your narratives aside and talk to your unconscious.

I don’t mean dream analysis, which is just putting a narrative to the churnings of your unconscious self.

I don’t mean going with your gut.

Those can help, I guess, but if you really want to know what you want, you have to have a conversation with your unconscious.

This isn’t like trying to interpret cryptic omens from distant heavens. It’s like sitting in a room with your wisest, most capable self and having a chat.

Not sure how to do that?

Not many folks do, which is why it’s part of my Platinum Coaching program.

Figuring out what you really want is just the start… but that alone is worth the investment. After all, it could save you a lifetime of wrong turns and unsatisfying victories.

When you know what you want – what you really want – you’ll surprise yourself with just how quickly you can begin to find it.

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