At some stage in your life, you’ve fought yourself and lost.
That’s a part of being human. You want to change, so you force the change.
You dig deep, throw as much willpower as you can manage at it, and hope for the best.
Maybe the change stuck.
Maybe it didn’t.
Either way, you lost. You can’t fight yourself and emerge the winner – after all, who was it that did the losing?
It reminds me of something I heard about gardening, decades ago.
I’m not a gardener – I’ve killed my fair share of ‘unkillable’ plants – but this stuck with me anyway:
A weed is a plant growing in an undesirable location.
There’s nothing in there about the nature of the plant itself. That’s because plants aren’t ‘good’ or ‘bad’ – they simply are.
The worse invasive species cause immense damage… but if they’re invasive, that means they’re far from home.
And the prettiest plant can suck the life out of something more useful.
Save your judgements. Don’t bother condemning a plant – simply wonder how to resolve the situation.
And the same goes for your thinking.
No thought is wrong or bad.
And none is worthy of your wrath.
The best approach (and, as far as I’m concerned, the only approach) is to skip the part where you hate a thought. That thought is useful, maybe even lifesaving… in the right context.
Figure that out and it’s a lot harder to fight yourself over it.
And a lot easier to resolve the situation.
This sort of relaxed, focused acceptance is the key to personal growth.
Plus it’s a natural, inevitable side effect of the Neural Reset.
If you sick of fighting yourself and want to simply let your problems go, this is the technique for you.
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