Ever get “too in your head” when talking to people?

If you’re anything like me, you know conversations are supposed to flow.

And the opposite of that flow is when you get too analytical.

You start overthinking everything, wracking your brain for something to say.

Only the harder you think, the less comes to mind. Until you just blurt out something embarrassing and hope they don’t notice how awkward you are.

It’s one of those things where the more you try, the harder it is.

But okay, great.

What’s the advice here?

Don’t try?

Relax?

Or the brilliantly unhelpful: “just be yourself!”

Urgh, no.

I’m a fan of using whatever you have in the moment. If you’re too in your head, then use that.

Fighting against it will get you nowhere.

But so will blindly giving in to your overly analytical thinking, of course.

The answer?

Use that logical part of your brain to track where you are in the conversation. Think about where you are in relation to the conversational architecture.

And then use that to generate things to talk about.

Imagine rarely running out of things to say, even when your thoughts, self-consciousness and, yes, even awkwardness go into overdrive.

It’s easy enough when you know the secret underlying structure to conversations.

The hidden formula governing everything from ordering coffee to deep-and-meaningfuls with family.

Not to mention 15 exercises to train your skills like nothing else will.

But that’s enough talking about talking. It’s time to learn:

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P.S. If you download it during the launch, I’ll throw in this tasty bonus:

It’s one thing to be an amazing conversationalist… but what if you were memorable, too?

What if your words and stories stuck in their minds?

What if you could turn the most mundane thing into something so compelling, they’ll struggle to forget it?

I’m not exaggerating. In a few paragraphs of text, I tell a story about shaving that has it all – emotion, conflict and a triumphant hero.

Once you know the 4 Pillars of Lasting Impressions, you can be this memorable too.

But this guide is only available during the launch, so grab it now.

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